Burnout: Treat the cause, not just the symptoms

Burnout: Treat the cause, not just the symptoms

This week, our Director of Well-being, Tracy Secombe, shares her story of burnout with you. How she identified her symptoms and what she did to manage it. 

When I look back, I can see now that I was probably in burnout for close to 10 years without knowing it. 

I was the frog in the pot with the water boiling so gradually that I didn’t notice, but luckily, I didn’t experience the fate of the boiled frog. 

Like most people, I began by treating the symptoms of burnout. As a physiotherapist, my go-to treatment for my ever-increasing headaches was stretching, strengthening, massage, and occasional painkillers. However not being aware that I was in burnout meant that I never even considered trying to discover what might be the underlying cause of my burnout symptoms. 

I know now. 

I was so busy being pulled in so many different directions trying to keep everybody around me happy that I completely forgot about myself. I was so aware of other people’s needs and determined to help meet them that I didn’t know what my needs were. 

I got so good at presenting myself as happy and positive to the outside world that I had completely lost any connection to my real emotions. 

At a young age, I received praise for my achievements and for making other people feel good and I became addicted to it. I realised now that pushing myself so hard to achieve the next thing was driven by my trying to prove myself to other people. 

To prove my worth. 

I only thought I was good enough if I was always achieving more and more and helping others to get what they want. 

I still love helping other people get what they want. 

But now, I am aware of my own emotions, and I am aware of what drives me to do what I do.  

Back then, I worked from the minute I opened my eyes in the morning to the minute I closed them at night, and in fact, sometimes I’d wake up the following day and feel like I’d worked all night (it was like I dreamed about work) because I was subconsciously looking for approval from others. 

I didn’t have time for hobbies – in fact, I thought they were a waste of time. I thought it was impossible to be successful and have time for hobbies. 

Now I know differently. Now I know that feeling calm, happy, and inspired allows me to create the success that I want for myself and the people I love.  

Now I know that making time for me to feel good is the most important thing for me to do first before I take inspired action towards my goals. 

If you think that you might be experiencing symptoms of burnout or perhaps you are observing the symptoms in a loved one of yours, I would love you to join me on the webinar that I am running called…‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience’  on Wednesday 29th of November where I will share with you how to discover the cause of your burnout so that you can treat not just the symptoms but the cause of the burnout so that you can not only recover from….. it but prevent it from reoccurring. I look forward to seeing you on the webinar. https://learning.farmownersacademy.com/burnout

Regards, 

Robbo, Tracy & The Farm Owners Academy Team 

Guilt Free “Me Time”

Guilt Free “Me Time”

This week, our Director of Well-being, Tracy Secombe, shares the following blog post on why we feel so guilty when we do something for ourselves. 

When new members join the Farm Owners Academy Platinum Mastermind program, they complete a Business Analysis Review (BAR). As part of the review, we check in with their current well-being status and determine what burnout stage they are in – with the honeymoon stage being the one we would all like to be in – and other various stages of incremental levels of stress.

If they determine that they are in stage 3 or higher of burnout, they are invited to work through my 7-day Calmness Code Challenge. On the first day of the challenge, we think about how our lives would change in each area if we were calmer. 

Go deeper into this topic with Tracy during our free webinar on Wednesday, 29th of November, all about ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience’ – You can register here.

Today, one of the people going through the Calmness Code Challenge mentioned that she would have more “guilt-free me time.” 

It reminded me of myself and so many of the people in the farming community that I work with.  

Why do we feel so guilty when we do something for ourselves? 
I think it’s because we have been taught to work hard and do things for others.  
There is nothing wrong with either of these things. However, if we never make time for ourselves to be healthy and happy, eventually, we’re not much good to anyone around us. 

It’s common to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, but it’s important to remember that self-care is essential for your well-being.  

According to an article from Psychology Today, many people suffer from what is sometimes called toxic or chronic guilt, which is closely related to a false and overwhelming sense of responsibility.  

This stems from their childhood environment and is carried into their adulthood and adult relationships, be they romantic, work, or others.  

False responsibility refers to an attitude when you feel responsible for things that, objectively, you aren’t responsible for and shouldn’t feel responsible for.  

For example, as children and adolescents, people feel responsible for the needs and emotions of their parents, siblings, and other family members. Usually, this sense of responsibility comes from being overtly or covertly blamed and punished. Since the children are powerless and dependent, they have no choice but to accept any treatment they receive from their caregivers. Since the children don’t have a frame of reference, they also tend to normalise their environment or even perceive it as loving or caring childrearing.  

This false sense of guilt can even become a default state that is referred to as chronic or toxic guilt. As a result, the person tends to take on unjust responsibility and feels overly guilty if things around them go wrong. They are quick to accept that everything is their fault even though it isn’t.  

They also often have poor boundaries, are emotionally entangled with other people, and try to manage other people’s emotions or generally feel overwhelmed by other people’s emotions.  

If you’re feeling guilty about taking time for yourself, it’s important to remember that you deserve to take care of yourself. Here are some tips to help you overcome feelings of guilt: 

  1. Recognise that self-care is important: Taking care of yourself is essential for your well-being. It’s not selfish to take time for yourself. 
  1. Set boundaries: It’s essential to set boundaries and communicate them to others. Let them know that you need some time for yourself. 
  1. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness can help you stay present and focused on the moment. It can also help you let go of negative thoughts and feelings. 
  1. Challenge negative thoughts: When you start to feel guilty, challenge those negative thoughts. Ask yourself if they’re really true. 
  1. Be kind to yourself: Remember to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would show to a friend. 

Remember, taking time for yourself is not selfish. It’s essential for your well-being and can help you be more productive and effective in other areas of your life. 

Regards,  

Robbo, Tracy & The Farm Owners Academy Team 

P.S. This is your last chance to register! Go deeper into this topic with Tracy during our free webinar on Wednesday, 29th of November, all about ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience’ – You can register here.

Cultivating Unity: Strategies for Resolving Generational Differences in Farming Businesses

Cultivating Unity: Strategies for Resolving Generational Differences in Farming Businesses

On Wednesday, 29th of November, our Director of Wellbeing, Tracy Secombe, will be running a free webinar on ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience.’ 

You can register here.

Tracy has shared the below article on strategies for resolving generational differences in farming businesses …

 

Farming is more than a profession; it’s a way of life that often spans generations.

 

This continuity brings with it invaluable wisdom and experience, but it can also lead to generational differences in the way the farm is managed and the business is run.

 

These differences can pose significant challenges, from communication breakdowns to conflicting visions for the future. However, with the right strategies, bridging these gaps, fostering unity, and making decisions that benefit the farm’s longevity and prosperity are possible.

 

Challenges Faced by Different Farming Generations:

Differing Perspectives: Each generation brings unique experiences and perspectives to the table. Older generations may lean on traditional methods, while younger generations may be more tech-savvy and open to innovation. These differences can lead to clashes in decision-making.

 

Communication Breakdown: Effective communication is essential for any successful partnership, but generational differences can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and even resentment.

 

Resistance to Change: Older generations may be reluctant to embrace new technologies or farming practices, while younger generations might push for change and modernisation.

 

Succession Planning: Deciding who will lead the farm and how responsibilities will be transferred can be a delicate and contentious issue, especially when there are different visions for the future.

 

Strategies for Overcoming Generational Differences:

Open and Respectful Dialogue: Communication is the cornerstone of any successful resolution. Encourage open and respectful conversations where each generation can voice their concerns and ideas. Actively listen to each other’s viewpoints and avoid dismissing them out of hand.

 

Establish Common Goals: Identify shared objectives for the farm’s future. Whether it’s sustainable practices, profitability, or expanding into new markets, having a clear set of goals can help guide decision-making.

 

Leverage Each Generation’s Strengths: Recognise and value the strengths of each generation. Younger generations may bring fresh ideas and technical skills, while older generations have the wisdom and experience from years of farming. Combining these strengths can lead to innovation and growth.

 

Mentoring and Learning: Implement a mentorship program where younger members of the farm can learn from the older generation. This not only passes down valuable knowledge but also fosters a sense of continuity and respect.

 

Seek Outside Mediation: If disagreements become too entrenched, consider bringing in a neutral third party, such as a farm consultant or mediator. They can provide an objective perspective and help facilitate productive discussions.

 

Gradual Change and Experimentation: Recognise that change doesn’t have to happen overnight. Implement gradual changes and pilot programs to test new ideas. This approach allows both generations to see the results and adjust their strategies accordingly.

 

Formalise Succession Planning: Address the issue of succession planning proactively. Create a formal succession plan that outlines roles, responsibilities, and the transition process. Ensure it’s a collaborative effort and that everyone’s expectations are clear.

 

Resolving generational differences in farming business plans is a challenge, but it’s also an opportunity to blend tradition with innovation and experience with fresh perspectives.

 

By fostering open communication, recognising each generation’s strengths, and embracing change when necessary, farms can not only survive but thrive in an ever-evolving agricultural landscape. Ultimately, unity among generations can lead to decisions that result in the best outcomes for the business and its long-term success.

 

Andrew Roberts & The Farm Owners Academy Team

 

P.S. Tracy is hosting a webinar on ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience’ on Wednesday, 29th November 2023, and would love to see you there. Click here to register or to find out more!

Nurturing Resilience: How Australian Farm Owners Can Benefit from Microholidays in Today’s Economic Climate

Nurturing Resilience: How Australian Farm Owners Can Benefit from Microholidays in Today’s Economic Climate

On Wednesday, 29th of November, our Director of Wellbeing, Tracy Secombe, will be running a free webinar on ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience.’

You can register here.

Tracy has shared the below article on how you might benefit from a ‘microholiday’…

As an Australian farm owner, you understand that the agricultural industry can be both rewarding and challenging. The current economic climate has introduced additional pressures and uncertainties, making it even more crucial to take care of your well-being.

Amidst the hustle and bustle of farm life and economic fluctuations, there’s a simple yet effective strategy that can help you weather the storm and boost your resilience: microholidays.

What Are Microholidays?

Microholidays are brief, purposeful breaks from the daily farm responsibilities, designed to rejuvenate your physical and mental state. They offer a brief respite from the grind, focusing on quality over quantity to ensure you get the most out of your downtime.

How to Implement Microholidays:

Plan Strategically: In the current economic climate, every moment counts. Plan your microholidays ahead of time, just like any other farm-related task. Allocate specific dates on your calendar and treat them as non-negotiable appointments.

Keep It Cost-Effective: Given the economic pressures, microholidays don’t have to be extravagant or costly. They can be as simple as taking an afternoon off to explore a local hiking trail or having a picnic with loved ones.

Disconnect Thoughtfully: During your microholiday, disconnect from farm-related technology to fully immerse yourself in relaxation. Set boundaries to avoid checking emails or answering work-related calls during this precious time.

Prioritise Self-Care: Use your microholidays to focus on self-care activities that restore your energy and well-being. Whether it’s nurturing a personal hobby, practising mindfulness, or enjoying moments of tranquillity in nature, prioritise activities that rejuvenate you.

Strengthen Bonds: In tough economic times, spending quality time with family and friends can provide emotional support. Building and nurturing these relationships can be a meaningful aspect of your microholidays.

Why Are Microholidays Beneficial for Australian Farm Owners in Today’s Economic Climate?

Stress Reduction: The current economic climate can be stressful for farm owners. Microholidays offer a brief escape from these pressures, helping to reduce stress levels and allowing you to approach challenges with a clearer mind.

Enhanced Mental Health: In uncertain times, regular microholidays can enhance your mental health by providing a break from the farm’s daily routine and fostering relaxation. This can lead to reduced anxiety and an improved overall mood.

Improved Decision-Making: Stepping away from the farm for a short period can lead to better decision-making when you return. You’ll be refreshed, mentally sharper, and better equipped to tackle farm-related challenges efficiently.

Physical Well-Being: Microholidays also benefit your physical health by allowing for much-needed rest and recovery, which is especially important in challenging economic conditions. Over time, this can help prevent burnout-related health issues.

Resilience: By incorporating microholidays into your routine, you’ll strengthen your resilience as a farm owner. You’ll be better prepared to adapt to economic fluctuations, making you more agile and capable of navigating uncertain times.

In the current economic climate, Australian farm owners face unique challenges. However, microholidays can be a valuable tool in nurturing your well-being, reducing burnout, and enhancing your resilience.

By planning and implementing microholidays, you can nurture your own well-being and ensure a sustainable and prosperous future for your farm. Remember, a well-rested and resilient farm owner is better equipped to face the economic ups and downs of the agricultural industry.

Robbo on behalf of Tracy

P.S. Tracy is hosting a webinar on ‘Beating Burnout & Increasing Resilience’ on Wednesday, 29th November 2023, and would love to see you there. Click here to register or to find out more!

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